A few days ago, I wrote a post entitled, Just Say NO: It’s a Healthy Thing to Do. After a friend read it, she commented that I should write a follow-up post about the importance of saying YES.
She rightly pointed out that saying NO will set your boundaries but learning how (and when) to say YES can expand them. And both are important.
Saying YES helps you avoid being boxed in by limiting beliefs about what you are capable of or what’s expected of you. It empowers you to make positive choices and take positive action towards living a fulfilling life.
The son of a friend of mine chose to say YES to a new career. After many years of working in accounting, he chose to leave this well-paying and comfortable job because he discovered it really wasn’t what he wanted to do.
He was good at accounting, but he’d always wanted to work with troubled kids. So, he decided to become a school counselor. Needless to say, making this decision required major changes in his life.
How would he support himself? How would he deal with the troubled kids? Would he like the work? Even with all these questions, he said YES to his dream. He went back to school, got his degree, and began his new career. He’s still working at the same school and loves what he does!
However, learning to say YES isn’t only about your career; it’s also about how you are living your life. It’s about daring to go after the things that are important to you, and expressing who you are or who you want to become.
Saying YES challenges you to step out of your comfort zone. It increases your perspectives and opportunities for growth and fulfillment.
Therefore, if you’re hesitating about doing something new or making a change in your life, consider these questions:
- What am I saying NO to because I’m afraid to say YES to it?
- What steps can I take to change that NO into a YES?
Saying YES can be scary because it requires you to dare to change and expand your boundaries. It’s sometimes easy to think of what you want to do, or change, but not as easy to take steps to make the change.
So, I dare you to think of one small step you could take today to get closer to your YES. Who knows, you might find just saying YES is what allows you to reach out and grab your dream!
What about you?
I welcome you to share a time when you said YES, instead of NO to doing something new or making a change in your life!